Hey guys. So, I’ve never really been one to make new year’s resolutions. They seemed silly to me. Something about waiting until the beginning of the year to start making improvements that you could’ve started months prior seemed so off. While I still believe that you shouldn’t wait until January to facilitate an idea that you happened upon in July, I do understand the allure of a crispy new year. There’s this certain energy that you get around January 1st that just wasn’t there back in July. I see why one would use that as a launching pad to better themselves. We all have things that we would like to tweak and refine. I like to make goals all the time. My goals at the moment are about trying to make my experience as an introvert a more pleasant one. You see, a lot of times in the past I have looked at my introversion as a sort of “handicap” because it can seem like most of society doesn’t really get it. Because of this and other reasons, I haven’t always had the best time. But, I believe that there are changes that I can make within myself (without trying to pretend to be an extrovert) to flourish and further enrich my life here as an introvert. Here are some of my 2018 goals and affirmations.
I WILL SAY “NO” MORE OFTEN
I’ve realized this year that I don’t have to say yes to every function or gathering that I’m invited to. Heck, I don’t even have to say yes to every phone call or text. I’ve gotten much more comfortable with just saying “No”. I would like to further this new found confidence in my decisions. I don’t have to feel guilty or come up with some lame excuse. It doesn’t have to be that complicated. Introverts don’t always want to go out, talk on the phone or spend time with other people AND THAT IS PERFECTLY FINE. In 2018, I will be more comfortable with being wired a little differently than some other people.
I WILL CREATE MORE BALANCE
Let’s face it, as an introvert it’s way too easy to reach “hermit” status. But, just because I’m an introvert, it doesn’t mean that I have to stay inside ALL of the time. Introverts do get cabin fever TOO after all, just way less often. So this year to avoid that, I will get out of the house more often. My plan is to bring my home workout routine to the gym and to bring my yoga practice to the studio instead of my living room. Also, there is a non-profit animal rescue not too far from my house where I’m interested in volunteering. What do you do to get out of the house? Suggestions would be much appreciated.
I WILL WORK ON COMMUNICATION SKILLS
Obviously introverts have a harder time verbally expressing themselves, but will I let that be an excuse for the rest of my life? No. This year I will work on being more assertive at getting my point across. I honestly believe that it doesn’t have to be that hard. Naturally it will take some work, but communication IS a skill after all and as with any skill, practice is a necessity.
I WILL NURTURE MY CREATIVITY
I’ve learned that the INFP personality type (my personality type) leans more towards the creative side and this makes sense because I’ve always been drawn to art in various forms. I’ve shown interest in a lot of things from hip-hop dance to acoustic guitar but I’ve had difficulty getting serious about any of them *looks over at my dusty guitar propped up in the corner*. This year I want to specifically commit to two of my creative interests: drawing and writing, the latter being this blog (which in all honesty, has accumulated quite a bit of dust as well). What better way for an introvert to express themselves than through their art? No talking required.
I WILL DEEPEN MY MEDITATION PRACTICE
I LOVE LOVE LOVE the effect that meditation has on me. It helps me to be better in every way. It improves my confidence in myself, it makes me more patient, kind and understanding, and it helps me to be truer to myself. I have to be meditating at least semi regularly in order to function in the way that I want to and this year I plan on getting deeper into my practice. I’ll most likely achieve this by watching more videos and reading more literature on the subject as well as sticking to a more regular practice.
I WILL IMPROVE MY OUTLOOK
As I’ve touched on before, I’ve been quite cynical about being an introvert and longing to be understood. But, as I move through life, I meet more and more people along the way and I’ve been surprised to learn that there are more people like me than I originally thought. The reason that it may seem like almost everybody is extroverted is because you’re not the only introvert trying to keep up appearances. You’re not the only one screaming inside during a conversation filled with small talk or the only one on the outskirts of the party feeling misplaced. This is something that I’ll keep in mind this year. That although most social norms favor the extrovert and although not everyone gets it, I’m not alone.
So there you have it. Some of the goals that I will be carrying with me into 2018. Do any of them resonate with you? What are some of your goals? Comment down below. Oh. And Happy New Year.