Contrary to popular belief, introverts do actually love a good party. We like to go out and be surrounded by good people. I’ve been to a few wild and crazy shindigs in my life and honestly had SUCH a good time. So it’s not that introverts don’t like to party, but we DO have to be strategic in how we choose to spend our energy.
Think of an introvert’s energy levels like a video game, let’s say Super Mario. Everyone loves Mario, right? So at the beginning of the level when Mario starts out, he has 100% health. But, every time Mario gets hit, his health goes down. This is how being an introvert is. We start off with full energy, and every time we have a social interaction (get hit) in the way of small talk, group projects, or phone calls that could have been text messages, we lose a little more energy.
This is why introverts are so picky with how they choose to socialize, because socialization costs energy. It’s not that we’re being anti-social, we’re just being prudent. So with all of that explained, it should be no surprise that introverts actually would be interested in throwing a party. In this post, I will highlight how introverts can throw a well planned party that isn’t too wild, so that they don’t have to spend a week recharging from it. (Want a fun printable checklist of mental recharge essentials? Receive one when you subscribe to our newsletter!)
DECIDE WHO’S INVITED
You don’t want to invite just anybody to your laid back get together. You want to choose your most chill friends, the ones who don’t cause you to feel overstimulated too quickly. It is also important that the people you invite won’t mind that this isn’t going to be some wild, crazy, rager of a party.
In addition to the types of people you invite, you need to decide how many of them you want there. Really sit there and consider how many people you think you can handle being there. You don’t want to invite so many people that you become overwhelmed.
SET THE MOOD
Setting the mood is crucial to throwing any party. It’s important to have some sort of ambiance. This can be done for cheap in a number of ways. You don’t have to go crazy with expensive decorations. An easier way would be to do it with music instead.
You could put together a playlist and have it playing on your sound system. You want the mood to be set for your guests from the moment that they walk into your party. Since you are trying to go for a laid back theme, I would suggest that your music matched. So don’t play any heavy metal or anything like that. That would send out mixed signals. Go for something a bit more relaxed.
If you have trouble coming up with a list of songs, I would suggest using the Pandora app on your phone. They have a station dedicated to just about any mood.
DECIDE ON ACTIVITIES
What will you and your guests be doing once they arrive? Will you guys be outside, drinking wine and talking on the patio? Do you want to make it a movie night? Is it a dinner party? Figure out exactly what you want to happen at your party beforehand so that you aren’t scrambling trying to figure it out once your guests have already arrived. I’ve always found that wine and games like 5 Second Rule mix REALLY well. It gets very fun and very passionate VERY quickly.
DECIDE ON FOOD AND DRINK
Food and drink is always one of the most important parts of the party to me. In fact, if there’s not going to be any food there, I might not even come to be completely honest. You have to make sure that you feed your guests. Send out a group text asking everyone what they would like to eat at the party. Always keep your guests’ dietary preferences in mind. Some people prefer not to eat certain things. Other people are allergic to certain things. Make your guests feel special by getting them the foods that they like.
For instance, I am a vegan and it’s always nice when I go to someone’s house and I see that they got some vegan food just for me. It makes me feel good. Do this for your guests! Make them feel like you care about them having something to eat at your party.
DECIDE WHEN THE PARTY ENDS
This is probably the most important thing you need to consider when planning your party! You have to figure out what time your guests will be leaving and let them know beforehand. This step truly puts the “introvert” in “introvert party”. You already know how you operate. You know that there is only a certain amount of time that you will be able to party before you become overstimulated and possibly begin to shut down. This is something that you don’t want to happen at your party! So prevent it from happening by prepping your guests.
Figure out a way of telling them that they have to be gone by a certain time. A fun and light hearted way of reminding your guests of what time they need to leave would be by hanging this banner. It’s a funny way of getting to the point without being rude.
Those were my five tips for throwing a laid back party. Have you ever thrown an introvert-friendly get together? What did you do? Do you have any more tips? Comment down below!
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